Wait! Autumn can be good for my health?

Wait! Autumn can be good for my health?

It’s Autumn, and the festivals of Easter and Passover coming up too. At this time of year, many people do a thorough “spring” cleaning. And it becomes a focused time to release things from our home, office and our life.

We can do the same with our bodies!

Autumn is also a great time to release the tightness f our bodies. To ease our aches and pains and other issues.

Watch this video to hear about 2 acupressure points you can use to help shift your energy, to start helping your aches and pains to release.

Rather read the transcript of the interview on Revitalise and Renu?

Here it is…

Fiona: Welcome back to Alive 90.5. We’ve been talking about massage with our beautiful guest, Sarah Gowans. We just listened to that song, which is about depression and the blues, because, you don’t just do massage, you also do acupressure, correct? 

Sarah: As part of the massage treatment that I do, yes, acupressure is one of the tools I have, correct.

Fiona: Can you tell our audience a little bit about what acupressure is, and how it can help, in massage, but also how it can help factors around depression or sadness?

Sarah: Beautiful question Fiona! 

So acupressure, like acupuncture is based on the Meridian channels in Traditional Chinese medicine. Rather than using needles in acupuncture, acupressure is just using finger pressure. So it’s the sort of thing that you can even do on your own body. 

Each of the meridian channels are associated with certain emotions. So kidney and bladder meridians, for example, are about fear. 

While the Lung and Large Intestine meridians are about the emotion of grief and the energy of releasing. So they are great to use especially if you’re either trying to spring clean, or if you’re trying to spring clean your body. Particularly when it’s in its element, and that’s in the season of Autumn.

Fiona: Tell me a bit more. When you say spring cleaning, what do you mean? Because obviously, you’re talking about spring cleaning negative emotions out of the body.

Sarah: Yes, you can release lots of things and it’s a great time to physically spring clean your house, just as much as you’re spring cleaning yourself. And in Chinese medicine, the best time to do that, to release stuff is actually Autumn rather than spring. Just to have it a little backward. But, yes, it can be really powerful to clear out and just let go of things that you no longer need, correct.

Fiona: Yes okay. That’s very good, very good. 

And so let’s have a look at this acupressure. Obviously, we were talking earlier in the other session, about self-care. Is there any acupressure that you can show me, that I could do, or you could help me do, now, on the radio? One that I can use on a particular Meridian?

Sarah: Absolutely, yes! We have a few things that we can do. After today’s show, I can send you a picture and if you’d like. You can even pop it on your Facebook page so that your listeners can see to it as well. 

Fiona: Okay, so talk me through it so we can verbally tell the audience what we’re doing.

Sarah: Perfect! Excellent. 

So on your pointer finger, on the side of the nail, at the base of the nail bed, on the thumb side of your pointer finger, that is a Large Intestine point. Large Intestine point number one. If you press it, you might find that it’s tender. You don’t need to press it so hard that it really hurts. Just a little press, with the nail of your other thumb, is enough to activate it.

If it’s not tender, well it probably isn’t an issue for you.

Fiona: Okay, maybe Christmas dinner, it might be!

Sarah: Quite so, absolutely

And there are some great acupressure points that you can do to support your body through constipation, and that sort of thing as well. Don’t do those, if you are pregnant. Not an issue personally, but for any listeners out there you don’t want to be bringing the energy downwards when you are pregnant. So that’s a good one to avoid in that instance.

But Lung energy is another meridian whose energy is about grief. That’s on the inside of your arm on the thumb side of the wrist. About a finger width away from the crease in your wrist you’ll find a spot that also might be tender. It’s quite close to the wrist itself.

Fiona: That’s it. Yes, now I can feel a little bit, yep I can feel something there yes.

Sarah: Right, so that’s Lung #8.

Fiona: Lung #8, yes? And that’s where you store any sad energies? Is that what you’re saying?

Sarah: So, Lung and Large Intestine meridians are both connected to the emotion of grief, yes.  They can be great spots, both of these, to help your body support you to let go of that grief energy.

Fiona: Now there we go, we learn something new all the time, don’t we guys? I do love having our guests on the show. Sarah, you’re a wealth of knowledge absolute wealth of knowledge. Thank you so much for coming on and sharing everything else. Thank you very much also for being a member of Alive nine of five absolutely love it.

Now Sarah’s going to stay and join me in my second half and we’re going to be talking about birthdays. Yes we’ll come back to that very soon. But thank you for this first hour Sarah 

Sarah: You’re very welcome Fiona

Fiona: I really appreciate that so yes so acupuncture, and lots of other things. I really love it you’re a superstar!

So, let’s have a look at what we’ve got coming up. Because we’re on the topic of grief, and how acupuncture and massage can help you, I’m going to play a beautiful single. I think she’s a beautiful singer, she was remarkably good at what she did. Called Amy Winehouse, and I’m going to play “You know I’m no good”. But of course, if you’re out there guys, we know you’re very good!

I just wanted to say thank you Sarah for coming on board to a live 90.5 we’ve loved having you on here.

Sarah:  Thanks Fiona Mary Berry, and thank you Alive 90.5 FM for having me here it’s been a pleasure.

Final Thoughts:

Body tension, aches, and pains can drive you to … (fill in your blank). But there are things that you can do to help release and ease them. Sometimes even before you get to professional care. I hope you have found these tips for reducing the mental and physical pain in your body, helpful.

Please remember that it is always best to have persistent aches properly assessed by a health professional, to ensure that there is no serious cause that needs to be addressed. If you have pain that you want to be cleared out of your life…

Book today and we can do a full assessment, and treatment plan, and help you back to enjoying your life to the full.

Hungry for more?

If you’d like to learn a bit more about how you can use the energy and the season of Autumn, to positively impact your mood, check out this blog “Autumn Energy Cleanse; Clear Your Blocked Energy”

The surprising power of the Gentle

The surprising power of the Gentle

Rather read the Interview transcript?

Fiona: So guys we’re back here it’s 29 minutes to three on Alive 90.5 on Revitalise and Renu, your health and wellness show.

What we’re going to be talking about, is: Why massage Why is massage so important to each of us? And what does it do?

So we talked earlier about how it helps alleviate some of those emotions that you keep inside you, especially over Christmas We all realize it’s the most stressful time. It really can be.

Although, it cannot be too, I mean you know, you can choose. But most of the time there’s something around Christmas that stresses you out. It could be the shopping, could be meeting with people you don’t want to meet, could be doing all the preparation work and nobody else is helping you. Could be a whole heap of things.

So Sarah, tell me a little bit about what people can do out there. What our community can do for self-care? A great massage?

Sarah: Great question Fiona!

Yes, self-care at this time of the year is really important. To help people as you say, cope with all the challenges that are going on right now even just their only expectations of what they want Christmas to be and the pressure that we put on ourselves in, creating that. So yes self-care is really really valuable and it helps, not only your physical health your immunity, your mindset, and attitude. I know they’re passions of yours as well. And yes, it can just empower all areas of your life. Even your relationships. So that you don’t let things get to you as they might otherwise have done. 

And massage is just one form of self-care. Whether you have it done to you, or you do it for yourself. But you can do things like the Epsom salt baths that we were speaking about a moment ago. You can do things like acupressure points. That’s one that you and I had a quick chat about in the break. 

Fiona: And the next break I’m going to get her to show me some acupressure points. but hold on I’ll tell you about that and the second and the third half.  Keep going. Fabulous!

Sarah: So even simple things like deep breathing just taking a moment to be grateful and having an attitude of gratitude of real appreciation for what you do have in your life. Whether it’s your own two feet that can walk you down the road or a fabulous family around you, surrounding you with love. 

Fiona: I think that’s so important, absolutely. I have a gratitude book, and sometimes I’m very good in writing the Gratitude book, and sometimes I’m not. But even if I don’t write in it, I regularly say “I am the luckiest person out there” and almost all my friends will go yep that’s exactly what she says. I’ll tell my hubby “I’m the luckiest woman! You know I got the jackpot I married you.” I’ll tell my friends I’m so lucky I’ve got you as my friends, because I genuinely believe it’s great to have a group of friends around you. I will go shopping and go I’m the luckiest person out. Someone’s going to move out of a car spot, and you know what, the universe tends to give it to us. It’s just amazing that this expectation of being lucky gives you. 

And some more ideas of self-care? 

Sarah: Things that also will be close to your heart Fiona, exercise. So with exercise, anything that you like to do, is a good thing good form of exercise. So whether that’s walking whether that’s a Tai Chi class or yoga a class whatever that is for you. Anything that gets your body moving is amazingly wonderful to help shift that stuck energy. 

Fiona: In fact the guests I’ve got on next week is I’ve got some are quite aerobic ladies and gentlemen that are going to be invited onto the show just sharing the benefits of water. Water around your body when you’re exercising and that’s a great self-care one. Isn’t it?

Sarah: Absolutely, absolutely!

And the other ones you may have, that I haven’t thought of, if you’ve got pets at home. We’ve got cats. I know you’ve got dogs 

Fiona: Oh absolutely! Therapy they are. 

Sarah: The most gorgeous things and they’re full of love and they give that love to you. So playing with pets, talking to a friend, picking up the telephone, sending an email. Anything like that, It taps into that whole appreciation mode, and helps you to stay in that positive mindset. So those things can be wonderful. If you’re into meditation, or prayer even. These can be fabulous to help bring you back to a centered space 

Fiona: And while we’re talking about that, one of the reasons I got into Tai Chi, was I once went to a lady that did sound bath meditations because it was the one thing that enabled this now 58-year-old, then 57, to be able to understand how to meditate. When you’re constantly on the go, is that you are you? Someone who’s constantly on the go? You may be you’re a business executive, you’re always moving. Maybe you’re a mother. Maybe you just constantly have lots of activity going on and you never stop. And you feel that when people tell you to meditate five, ten minutes I can’t do this? Well I found this sound bath meditation and it was just awesome. Absolutely awesome. So for now guys, I just wanted to say thank you Sarah for coming on board to a live 90.5. We’ve loved having you on here!

Sarah: Thanks Fiona Mary Berry and thank you Alive 90.5 FM for having me here it’s been a pleasure.

Final Thoughts:

Self-care can help you to lift your energy, shift and release aches, and pains. Self-care can be a powerful way to assist our physical healing as well as build our mental and emotional resilience.

If you also want your healing to progress and flow as well as possible. To relieve your pain and build your strength, while balancing and supporting your body’s healing.
So you to feel amazing, vibrant, and full of energy!

If you would like assistance to achieve that… Book today and we can do a full assessment, and treatment plan, and help you back to enjoying your life to the full.

Hungry for more?

You might also find it interesting to learn a bit more about how your neck pain can impact your mood. If so, check out this blog “Your Teacher was Right”.

Strategies to Assist Your Neck Pain At Home

Strategies to Assist Your Neck Pain At Home

Rather read the transcript?

Good morning and welcome to Blossoming Me. I’m Sarah Gowans, massage therapist at Blossoming Me.

Today I wanted to continue our chat about neck pain. Talking particularly about ways to prevent it, and what actually causes it in the first place. Things you can do to look after yourself, not only with hope clear your pain but help boost your energy and clarity of mind.

So welcome to BlossomingMe.

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Common Causes of Neck Pain

You know, it’s easy to ignore your neck, to take it for granted when you don’t have pain. But goodness me don’t we know about it when it gets tight, we can’t move it or it gets painful.

If you’ve had it you know what I mean. So, the three main causes of neck pain are things like: repetitive motions, posture, and our mental and emotional health (stress basically). 

So, according to the Mount Sinai organisation, the most common cause rather of neck pain is repetitive motions that cause strain. So you are overusing those muscles in your neck, which is causing problems, so the muscle gets tight. Now when that muscle gets tight, it can start recruiting other muscles, and we’ll come to that in just a moment. But things like if you’re swimming, freestyle for example, and constantly turning your head in one direction, that can overwork your neck. If you’re doing dance moves, and continually moving your head in some interesting position. Any strain in this position will then be exacerbated, simply by practising that dance. Doing that over and over again, your body is going to get stressed by that, which can cause, and lead to neck pain and tightness. 

In our society commonly what we do is work with what’s in front of us. Whether it’s a computer, on an operating table, working with your hands in some fashion, it’s always in front of us. 

Why? Because that’s where our eyes are. You know not only do we work with what is in front of us, because that’s where our eyes are our whole body is geared to be a Steadicam for our eyes. So it (our body) is busy focusing, steadying us, and our neck is crucial in that. So it’s all about keeping our eyes level. Steady so that we don’t get dizzy so that we know where the horizon is. So that we aren’t put off when we’re running from a predator, back in you know, a long time ago. 

Repetitive movements may create neck pain

But all these aspects can stress your neck and body, because you use it constantly to keep your eyes level. Not only are you using your neck, but you are constantly adjusting those muscles, ligaments and tendons. Continually adjusting those vertebrae through your neck and your whole spine, to keep your eyes level and steady. So when they go out of whack, in some continuously [used] position, because you’re swimming or doing some funky dance move, and straining it, that can have a taxing effect on the body, an overload.

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When doing these motions and movements in a repetitive fashion, that can actually become an unconscious pattern… Once they’re an unconscious pattern, that actually becomes your posturem, and if we aren’t focused on creating a great posture, how you’re standing, how you’re sitting, being aware of factors that create a good posture, then you can end up with a bad posture. 

So things like sitting for a long period of time, whether that’s relaxing on the couch, watching TV in a not-so-helpful position, or whether that’s stressing because you’ve got a lot of work on, and you’re leaning forward, into the computer and watching, with a whole lot of pressure, because the world is sitting on your shoulders, and that’s tugging at those muscles and ligaments in your neck. Whether that’s sleeping in an awkward or uncomfortable position. All these things can be leading to a not-so-helpful posture, a poor posture, and that can create neck pain. 

You can wake up in the morning, “Oh my goodness how did this happen? I’ve got a “Rye Neck”, a neck that feels [seriously] painful. It can lead to headaches, and all sorts of other challenges as well. But why? Because you’ve had a bad night’s sleep! Sometimes that can just be on one night, sometimes it’s because it’s happened repetitively, on multiple nights, but the position that you are in for any length of time can affect your neck. What a surprise!

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Is your stress levels impacting your neck?

Finally, mental and emotional health, things like stress, because you’re involved in what you’re doing, feeling the pressure, and that can stress you out. When you’re stressed, your shoulders tighten up, your whole spine can tighten up, and that can put your hips out, your shoulders out, and that of course has a run-on effect into your neck.

Sometimes it actually starts by sitting badly in that chair at work, with high pressure, and all those emotional things. You’ve got your hips out, (in your body’s continual process of adjusting your whole back again), to keep your eyes level. And what happens is that your neck is the last thing that has to adjust in order to compensate for all that is going on in the rest of your spine. It’s trying to do that last adjustment, to keep your eyes level, and that’s where you feel the pain in that final point. The stress, the anxiety, the lack of social support, all come into your body. Your body can’t help but respond to that mental and emotional situation of where you have got yourselves into. 

Preventative neck pain strategies

So how can you prevent all these things? Simply by having good posture, taking breaks, and staying active. If you have a lot of activity in your life, you [likely] know how beneficial that can be, in keeping you fit, active, energised, and keeping your muscles loose, limber, and functioning well.

Maintain good posture

Having a great posture is a good place to start. So making sure that when you are sitting at your desk, it is at the right height. The keyboard is at a comfortable height for you to be typing at, the monitor is at a good height for your eyes, so that you’re not tilting up or tilting down, or sideways. Some people have meetings, I heard this from a friend the other day. She had a meeting, and the person was talking with her, and she was typing over here, [directly in front of her body] and looking over there, [turning her head fully to the right] wondering why she had a sore neck. So these things that we don’t even think about, become an unconscious pattern and affect our posture.

Making sure that your chair is at a good height, as well, so that your feet are comfortably flat on the floor, supporting the rest of you Your knees lower than your hips, so that that, encourages your spine to be naturally straight. 

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Take regular breaks

As well as a good posture, make sure you take breaks. Go and get yourself a glass of water, go and get yourself a coffee. Go for a walk around the room. If you’re on the phone maybe you can have a conversation with somebody while you are walking around the office or the house or wherever it is that you happen to be working from. But movement and taking breaks away from that seated position can be really powerful. The stand-sit desks are awesome, but only if you use both functions. Standing and sitting, so that your body is constantly moving, adjusting, and not getting into a bad posture and staying there for hours on end, because you’re engrossed in what you’re doing. Or even worse feeling pressure about what you’re doing

Stay active

Staying active as I said, is really, really important. Doing those things on a regular basis, so that you can keep your body moving well, in different directions. And knowing just how important that is to keep your mind active, because when you’re moving and your body is active, your mind is also [more] active. When you’re moving and your body is active, the muscles are flowing, and when the muscles, and the blood, the circulation is flowing, well that helps the whole system to just feel much freer, and support you to clear that whole neck pain, even though you’re not necessarily just moving your neck.

Emotional Support

And finally as a bonus point on how to prevent neck pain, make sure you do things to support yourself emotionally. Make sure that you get support from your friends. Make sure that you are taking time out for yourself. You might be an active parent, who’s busy looking out for your kids all the time, make sure that you take time to look after number one. Put that oxygen mask on you, first. Remember that doing the exercise classes and that sort of thing, can be a fabulous way to nurture and look after you. Doing meditations, visualisations, hypnosis, or anything like that can be another way of looking after you. 

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I’ve seen some fabulous photographs on Facebook recently, of a beautiful group photo, with a dear friend who’s in a wheelchair with friends gathered around. A fantastic shot, of just the emotional support that these friends are giving each other, as well as their dear friend who’s been in a wheelchair for many years. It’s a stunning photograph and a great example of how much we need that emotional support. And all of this has an effect on our body. It takes the pressure off. It reduces our stress, and it supports our neck, helping to ease that pain.

So thank you for joining me here this morning at Blossoming Me, to find ways to help support your body continue on that journey to nurture yourself. To clear that neck pain, and prevent it from coming back.

I look forward to seeing you at our next one.

Have an awesome day!

Final Thoughts:

Neck pain can be excruciating, but there are things that you can do to help prevent it. I hope you have found these tips useful to support your whole body, and assist you in avoiding neck pain.

If you have neck pain that you want to be cleared out of your life… Book today and we can do a full assessment, and treatment plan, and help you back to enjoying your life to the full.

Hungry for more?

You might also find it interesting to learn a bit more about how your neck pain can impact your mood. If so, check out this blog “Your Teacher was Right”.

Author: Sarah Gowans

About Blossoming Me

BlossomingMe offers a fully integrated approach to your wellbeing. Located on Sydney’s Upper North Shore. Sarah is our Cranio-sacral and Remedial Massage Therapist and health and lifestyle coach. She can help relieve those problematic knots, tightness and other specific ailments to promote a healthy recovery. These complementary massage therapies can be combined to suit your needs, and include: craniosacral therapy, shiatsu, acupressure, reiki, remedial, swedish, and body-mind-massage. 

Our qualified Osteopath, Alexis, offers a drug free, minimally invasive, “hands on” treatment focusing on the musculoskeletal system with its associated muscles, tendons, ligaments, membranes, bones and joints. Alexis takes a functional approach. This means that she focuses on the way a component (body part, tissue or group of tissues) performs its role, as well as the way the body works, performs and integrates as a whole. Our team can support you to improve your posture and therefore your overall health.

**Disclaimer** The information provided by BlossomingMe, on our website, in our courses, and in our blogs and posts, is for educational and informational purposes only. The information provided on this site and social outlets is not, nor intended to be, a substitute for profess

ional advice or care. Please seek the advice of a qualified health professional before you make any changes to your health regime, before dealing with new symptoms, and, if something you have read here has raised any questions or concerns regarding your situation.

How to become the BEST version of you for 2023?

How to become the BEST version of you for 2023?

Having a Solid Self-Care Routine:

Recently, we have had a number of clients ask us for recommendations for how to get out of pain, reduce stress levels, and boost energy, and be the best version of you, in the year ahead.
Especially at this time of year, when pressure at work can be high; school, work, and social events are numerous; and there is much to organise for family traditions and “the big day” celebrations.

In short, our answer always revolves around a “Solid Self Care Routine”. And the question that usually follows is “And how do I do that?”.

So we created this blog, to help you do exactly that.

1. Exercise

Moving your body, preferably with some cardio and some strength training… but even just moving – walking or stretching, etc. Can assist with circulation, aiding healthy cells and tissues. It gets the metabolism moving, helping with fat mobilisation, insulin sensitivity, hormone regulation, and more. It is good for your mental state and helps you switch off from life pressures, allowing you to manage/reduce your stress.

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2. Nutrition

Provides the building blocks for the healthy creation and repair of cells, leading to healthy tissues and well functioning body systems. Without the basic building blocks, can you expect your body to work as you want it to? Nutrition is about balance and moderation, it doesn’t have to be about willpower or denying yourself. When you are nourished correctly, your cravings will reduce, you don’t have to go without! This topic also includes having a balanced, happy, and functioning GUT (from your food entry to your exits) and also about digestion. You are not what you eat… but rather what you absorb. You can eat well, but if you are not digesting well and therefore not absorbing well, you will still become deficient.

3. Mindset

In all areas of our lives, our subconscious mind can dominate our habits and therefore our results. Our mindset practices can allow us to access our subconscious mind, so that we are in charge of our “destiny”. By creating routines and daily practices that support us, we can repeatedly and consciously input positive information to our great computer (our brain), allowing us to build resilience, patience, understanding, clarity, focus, inspiration, and a general sense of gratitude, joy, and wellbeing. Some tools you might like to try, include: meditation; gratitude journals; focusing on finding solutions (instead of brooding on the problem); looking for what went right and/or what we learned from a situation; finding the space between the trigger and our response and learning to create new responses; releasing trauma; and releasing old patterns of behaviour and emotion that do not serve us.

Reset Your Mindset
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4. Connection

When we feel important (if only in a small way), and a part of something bigger – a group working for a common goal, a community, a family… it helps us to continue onward in our lives, filling us with purpose, even joy. We know that the feeling of isolation is a major component in depression. Humans are social beings, we saw that during lockdowns… Not only do we need to talk to people, but we need to be physically around them, and not just around them, but touching. You may have noticed that when you couldn’t hug your best friend, you didn’t feel as secure or as closely connected, or as satisfied with the interaction. A newborn child will not survive if it is removed from all physical touch… it is that important!

5. Rest

As they say, “all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” Ok, that’s still an odd saying… but we can all picture a workaholic we know – pretty boring to be around, right? Or a stressed out, overwhelmed, always doing, never being, person we know… hard to be comfortable around! It is hard to enjoy life when we live like this. But more importantly, it’s not healthy! Every battery needs to be recharged. Sleep is the time our body heals, detoxifies, and recharges. Without enough, our stress levels rise, our patience and brain power reduces; our hormones go haywire; our fat metabolism reduces; our digestion reduces; insulin resistance builds; inflammation runs rampant; we are likely to be anxious or depressed or overwhelmed and our ability to make decisions and be motivated to do anything… including to eat well reduces. Also, we are likely to crave fatty and sweet foods, eat more calories in general, have low energy and be cranky. While sleep – both quality and quality is always important and the amount of REM, deep and light sleep you get affects different aspects of your health. There are also other ways to add short bursts of much needed rest, relaxation and rejuvenation into your life. Some of these might include spending time in nature; spending time with friends; having a sauna; having a massage; doing a meditation or guided relaxation; or doing a slower style exercise like hatha yoga.

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6. Support

Like with connection, we need to feel that we have the ability to get help when we need it. When we have this support, we can grow, learn and achieve more and faster. Support can be as small as finding the information in a book, lecture, or online. It could be a conversation with a friend or mentor to feel heard and understood and possibly to discuss options. It can be from a teacher or mentor to help guide you on your path, helping you find and travel your unique journey. It can be from a practitioner, to find the right techniques for you to use at home to help get you out of pain or build strength to keep you out of pain. And it could be a physical treatment to help you relax, release trauma or work pressures, or remove blocks to movement and functioning. Support assists you to feel like you can do it. That if challenges come, and they will, that you can find a way through. That you have somewhere safe and trusted to find answers. 

At BlossomingMe, we aim not only to assist your body and mind to release blockages to healing, which allows you to feel better and move with better posture and more easily. But also to assist you in determining which tools and techniques you can use to keep you moving forward between visits, to slowly, over time, build strength, energy, determination, motivation, and your general health and wellbeing. Allowing you to create the You, that you want to be.

So if making 2023, your year to move forwards in becoming the best version of you, and if you know that assistance will help you get there easier and faster
Click the button below, for more information on our January offer to support you be the Best version of YOU next year!
or call us, on: 02 8005 7332.

Blog Author: Alexis Weidland

About Blossoming Me

BlossomingMe offers a fully integrated approach to your wellbeing. Located on Sydney’s Upper North Shore. Sarah is our Cranio-sacral and Remedial Massage Therapist and health and lifestyle coach. She can help relieve those problematic knots, tightness and other specific ailments to promote a healthy recovery. These complementary massage therapies can be combined to suit your needs, and include: craniosacral therapy, shiatsu, acupressure, reiki, remedial, swedish, and body-mind-massage. 

Our qualified Osteopath, Alexis, offers a drug free, minimally invasive, “hands on” treatment focusing on the musculoskeletal system with its associated muscles, tendons, ligaments, membranes, bones and joints. Alexis takes a functional approach. This means that she focuses on the way a component (body part, tissue or group of tissues) performs its role, as well as the way the body works, performs and integrates as a whole. Our team can support you to improve your posture and therefore your overall health.

**Disclaimer** The information provided by BlossomingMe, on our website, in our courses, and in our blogs and posts, is for educational and informational purposes only. The information provided on this site and social outlets is not, nor intended to be, a substitute for profess

ional advice or care. Please seek the advice of a qualified health professional before you make any changes to your health regime, before dealing with new symptoms, and, if something you have read here has raised any questions or concerns regarding your situation.

It’s all About the Dash – Four Strategies to Live a Purposeful Life

It’s all About the Dash – Four Strategies to Live a Purposeful Life

The Meaning of Life – Become a Dreamer and a Doer

You can’t learn confidence through theory. Confidence is built through action-based experience. When you live a purposeful life; something pulls or stretches you and makes you reach beyond your boundaries. This is one of the neatest ways to build self-confidence. Because it’s important to you, it taps into your passions. So rather than feeling the need to push yourself forward, you are internally, organically, and naturally pulled. You become self-motivated to do more, and as a result, you often achieve more. It’s interesting how it works. When you do more and achieve more, you begin to realise that you can accomplish more than you thought you could. It becomes like a self-fulfilling prophecy. 

 

We’ve found this too, while building our clinic business. Learning becomes much clearer when applied to things we care deeply about. More than that, if you’ve heard me speak at the beginning of any calendar year, you’ll have heard my passion for beginning with deliberate, focused intentions, in different areas or roles in our lives. Or visions, dreams or missions.

I would go so far as to say that meaningful purpose is what life is all about. 

I heard inspirational speaker, Glenda Leonard, many years ago, explain that it’s “All about the Dash”. Glenda spoke of the magic she found in cemetery gravestones, reading the brief descriptions of lives lived, from this time “-” to that time. Often these descriptions are about our personal, meaningful purpose.

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1. Dream until it’s your reality

Let’s consider Martin Luther King Jr’s iconic speech. His words were clear when he shared them with over 250,000 civil rights supporters… “I have a dream”. He didn’t say he wanted to change habits, although he did. Nor did he say “I have a goal”, although he certainly had these too. Having a vision or a dream is hugely powerful, as John C. Maxwell so aptly stated:

Habits may give us structure, and goals may give focus, but intentions, personal missions, or “Dreams give power. Dreams expand the world.” 

Whether it’s a vision that spans your lifetime, or a series of smaller aspirations, they can all carry a deeply personal meaning, which provides powerful motivation to do more and stretch more. To live a purposeful life, dream until it’s your reality.

2. Changing the programs in your mind

As you explore new avenues and experiences, as you take action to create your dreams, you’ll realise you’re more capable than you first imagined. This is because when your expectations change, your thoughts also alter. When you think differently, your automated deeper thoughts also shift.   Incredibly, this interrupts the old thought patterns about:

  • yourself
  • others
  • the world
  • life in general

These thought patterns, which lead in succession faster than the speed of light, also stop. The highways and expressways of thought patterns fall into disrepair. As a result, your old programs, which are neurologically connected to these changed thought patterns, begin to chemically deteriorateThese programs, which you run unconsciously, relate to your:

  • self-confidence
  • a sense of worth to succeed
  • your attitude to personal responsibility
  • and various other habits and messages.

 

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How long does it take for these thought expressways to begin to break down

These expressways and old programs can begin to break down chemically in as little as 3 weeks. So if you deliberately change a habit, be it a thought or behaviour, for 21 days or more, it will start to disintegrate. That’s why we often hear habit coaches speak about changing a habit for at least 3 weeks. At the end of those 3 weeks, the old pathway is still there, you can still go back to it if you choose. But what you have is a choice. That old expressway of thought is now a backstreet. Do it long enough, about 90 days, and it will become an old, overgrown path. While your new thought or habit becomes bigger and stronger.

The stronger program wins! Always!

Not the right one, not the true one, just the stronger one

I suggest it’s easier to focus on something for 3 weeks or longer, if it is of great importance to you. So, rather than choosing to swap breakfast food from Coco Pops to fruit, choose something emotionally powerful to you. A new habit that represents something bigger than you. That pulls you along, and makes the new habit compelling from within. For example, choosing to eat healthy food to boost self confidence and self worth? Or to feel more vitalised and spend more quality time with loved ones. 

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3. How do I find my purpose in life? 

Now it’s clear that having a deep purpose or meaning helps greatly to change unwanted habits. Here are some activities you can deliberately immerse yourself in, to focus on meaning and purpose in your life, and thus boost your self confidence.

 

Create a Definite Aim

As Napoleon Hill would describe it, a “Definite aim”, that you are passionate about. Vision boarding is one way to do this. Simply cut and paste, draw, write it out or create one in Canva. Create one, for individual or multiple key areas of your life. Add as much detail as you can. And place it somewhere you will see it daily.  This will help you live a purposeful life.

 

If creating a “Definite aim” is something you’d like to explore further, please check out our earlier Positive Pyjama Chats or my Outcomes Mastery This 3-step formula empowers professional women, (like you), to uncover the results you truly want, in the primary roles in your life. So you can regain your personal clarity, energy, and presence.” 

 

Achievement board & personal reflection

These are a brilliant tool to recognise where you are currently, and what you have achieved. Knowing where you want to go is important, but celebrating your wins and acknowledging how far you’ve come assists with personal growth. It may be even more crucial, when your focus is creating meaning and purpose and building self confidence.

 

Reflecting daily and fostering an attitude of gratitude helps you notice and appreciate the steps you are taking to achieve these worthy aims, and who you are becoming, step by step, in the process. As Jim Rohn says:

“It’s not what we achieve, it’s who we become in the process”.

With your focus on the deeper meaning in your life, you are becoming the person who has the confidence to do or achieve this thing.

 

We learn best by immersion. Just watch a toddler learn, they’re into everything and soak up everything they can, to learn. In your first 2.5 years of life, you learn a myriad of things, including language. Not by going to school, getting coached, lectured, or tutored. You learn by being surrounded by it. Immersed in language and life.

 

Similarly, you can build your new habit or program more quickly, powerfully and reliably, when you surround yourself with it. When you “go” to the land of self-confidence and success, and learn the language. Isn’t it more inviting and exciting to immerse yourself in something that gives you purpose and meaning?

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4. Subliminal Messaging / Auto-Suggestion:

One way to immerse or surround yourself, is through auto-suggestion: Auto-suggestion is broader than audios & videos, it encompasses your whole environment. Including people, places and plants. Now that you’re focusing on your meaningful missions, you may find that your mission leads you to particular people, places or plants, relevant to it. Who are the people you want to surround yourself with?, Either while you are directly taking action on the mission, or mentors and teachers who you can be inspired by, find support or learn more from? 

 

You may be wondering how impactful subliminal messaging can really be… To help you understand just how much power subliminal messaging and auto-suggestion have in our everyday lives, I wanted to share this story.

 

 Story: The Power of Subliminal Messaging

A group of experienced, professional advertising agents from successful firms, from across the US east coast were asked to come to a small town, on the other side of the country, to design an advertisement to promote the town. 

 

They were collected from the airport and driven across town to the boardroom of the company who hired them. On the way, they passed by a zoo, billboards with strong messages about safety, freshness and adventure, and passed other town landmarks.

 

When they got to the boardroom, the managers of the company who had hired them, welcomed them and sat them down at the table. They explained,

“We know that you are each great agents, from the best, most successful firms, in your city. You all know that we’re looking to create an ad for our town, and we’ve asked you here today to help us do that. We have a few ideas,” they said, one of them holding up an envelope, “but you are the experts. We’d like to hear from you, first, before we tell you our ideas. So we’ll give you space to get your heads together and creative juices flowing, then we’ll come in, have a listen to your ideas and go from there. Sound like a plan?” The agents all agreed this was a good plan, and the managers left them to it.

 

At the agreed time, the managers returned and listened to the ideas and concepts that these experienced, professional agents put forward.

 

At the end of the group presentation by the agents, the managers were happy with these ideas and congratulated the agents on all the hard work they’d done. Finally, at the end, the managers reached for the envelope of their own ideas that had been on the board table from before the agents arrived in the room. They opened the envelope and shared with the agents their own ideas about the promotion for their town. 

 

What they read from the letter, sealed in the envelope, was virtually identical to the ideas put forward by the professional, and very successful advertising agents.

 

How? Because the path of signs, businesses and landmarks of the town they had driven past on their way from the airport was no accident. It was strategically designed to subliminally have them thinking in certain ways about the town.

 

 

What messages are you picking up from around you that could influence or compromise your endeavours?

 

Whether in person, or on audios & videos, others values and beliefs will rub off on you. That is the point, and so, it’s also useful to monitor them. Are they lifting you up, encouraging you, stretching you, and pushing you forward? Or do they put a lid on your growth? Limiting you, your belief in yourself, or generally leaving with you a shrinking feeling?

Auto-suggestion has more of an external focus. Whereas, an internally focused method, may help you feel like you can have a day-to-day, in the moment impact, by simply monitoring yourself. Listen objectively and analytically to what you say to others, and yourself, and edit it. Catch yourself mid thought and mid sentence. Change ‘I can’t’ to ‘I can’, ‘I’m not enough’, to ‘Let’s see how far I can go’. At home, be mindful of your expressed language in front of your kids, your spouse, and of course yourself, before you speak, as well as your inner dialogue.

 

Going back to the neurological thought expressways mentioned before. These steps are all about noticing when you’re on the old pathway and deliberately moving to the new pathway, to build and strengthen that one.

 

 

Challenge Yourself to Speak Only Positively

A fun game to play, to challenge yourself, for just one day, to speak only positively to and about:

  • yourself
  • your spouse
  • your family
  • others
  • your hobbies
  • your projects
  • your career
  • life.

Imagine, for one whole day, speaking only positively! When you’ve mastered that reflect on the day, observe any changes you experienced. Then stretch the challenge, try it for a week. Now you’re really building that thought expressway!

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About Blossoming Me

BlossomingMe offers a fully integrated approach to your wellbeing. Located on Sydney’s Upper North Shore. Sarah is our Cranio-sacral and Remedial Massage Therapist and health and lifestyle coach. She can help relieve those problematic knots, tightness and other specific ailments to promote a healthy recovery. These complementary massage therapies can be combined to suit your needs, and include: craniosacral therapy, shiatsu, acupressure, reiki, remedial, swedish, and body-mind-massage. 

Our qualified Osteopath, Alexis, offers a drug free, minimally invasive, “hands on” treatment focusing on the musculoskeletal system with its associated muscles, tendons, ligaments, membranes, bones and joints. Alexis takes a functional approach. This means that she focuses on the way a component (body part, tissue or group of tissues) performs its role, as well as the way the body works, performs and integrates as a whole. Our team can support you to improve your posture and therefore your overall health.

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