Having a Solid Self-Care Routine:

Recently, we have had a number of clients ask us for recommendations for how to get out of pain, reduce stress levels, and boost energy, and be the best version of you, in the year ahead.
Especially at this time of year, when pressure at work can be high; school, work, and social events are numerous; and there is much to organise for family traditions and “the big day” celebrations.

In short, our answer always revolves around a “Solid Self Care Routine”. And the question that usually follows is “And how do I do that?”.

So we created this blog, to help you do exactly that.

2. Nutrition

4. Connection

When we feel important (if only in a small way), and a part of something bigger – a group working for a common goal, a community, a family… it helps us to continue onward in our lives, filling us with purpose, even joy. We know that the feeling of isolation is a major component in depression. Humans are social beings, we saw that during lockdowns… Not only do we need to talk to people, but we need to be physically around them, and not just around them, but touching. You may have noticed that when you couldn’t hug your best friend, you didn’t feel as secure or as closely connected, or as satisfied with the interaction. A newborn child will not survive if it is removed from all physical touch… it is that important!

6. Support

Like with connection, we need to feel that we have the ability to get help when we need it. When we have this support, we can grow, learn and achieve more and faster. Support can be as small as finding the information in a book, lecture, or online. It could be a conversation with a friend or mentor to feel heard and understood and possibly to discuss options. It can be from a teacher or mentor to help guide you on your path, helping you find and travel your unique journey. It can be from a practitioner, to find the right techniques for you to use at home to help get you out of pain or build strength to keep you out of pain. And it could be a physical treatment to help you relax, release trauma or work pressures, or remove blocks to movement and functioning. Support assists you to feel like you can do it. That if challenges come, and they will, that you can find a way through. That you have somewhere safe and trusted to find answers. 

At BlossomingMe, we aim not only to assist your body and mind to release blockages to healing, which allows you to feel better and move with better posture and more easily. But also to assist you in determining which tools and techniques you can use to keep you moving forward between visits, to slowly, over time, build strength, energy, determination, motivation, and your general health and wellbeing. Allowing you to create the You, that you want to be.

So if making 2023, your year to move forwards in becoming the best version of you, and if you know that assistance will help you get there easier and faster…
Click the button below, for more information on our January offer to support you be the Best version of YOU next year!
or call us, on: 02 8005 7332.

Blog Author: Alexis Weidland

About Blossoming Me

BlossomingMe offers a fully integrated approach to your wellbeing. Located on Sydney’s Upper North Shore. Sarah is our Craniosacral and Remedial Massage Therapist and health and lifestyle coach. She can help relieve those problematic knots, tightness and other specific ailments to promote a healthy recovery. These complementary massage therapies can be combined to suit your needs, and include: craniosacral therapy, shiatsu, acupressure, reiki, remedial, swedish, and body-mind-massage. 

Our qualified Osteopath, Alexis, offers a drug free, minimally invasive, “hands on” treatment focusing on the musculoskeletal system with its associated muscles, tendons, ligaments, membranes, bones and joints. Alexis takes a functional approach. This means that she focuses on the way a component (body part, tissue or group of tissues) performs its role, as well as the way the body works, performs and integrates as a whole. Our team can support you to improve your posture and therefore your overall health.

ional advice or care. Please seek the advice of a qualified health professional before you make any changes to your health regime, before dealing with new symptoms, and, if something you have read here has raised any questions or concerns regarding your situation.

The Meaning of Life – Become a Dreamer and a Doer

You can’t learn confidence through theory. Confidence is built through action-based experience. When you live a purposeful life; something pulls or stretches you and makes you reach beyond your boundaries. This is one of the neatest ways to build self-confidence. Because it’s important to you, it taps into your passions. So rather than feeling the need to push yourself forward, you are internally, organically, and naturally pulled. You become self-motivated to do more, and as a result, you often achieve more. It’s interesting how it works. When you do more and achieve more, you begin to realise that you can accomplish more than you thought you could. It becomes like a self-fulfilling prophecy. 

We’ve found this too, while building our clinic business. Learning becomes much clearer when applied to things we care deeply about. More than that, if you’ve heard me speak at the beginning of any calendar year, you’ll have heard my passion for beginning with deliberate, focused intentions, in different areas or roles in our lives. Or visions, dreams or missions.

I would go so far as to say that meaningful purpose is what life is all about. 

I heard inspirational speaker, Glenda Leonard, many years ago, explain that it’s “All about the Dash”. Glenda spoke of the magic she found in cemetery gravestones, reading the brief descriptions of lives lived, from this time “-” to that time. Often these descriptions are about our personal, meaningful purpose.

1. Dream until it’s your reality

How long does it take for these thought expressways to begin to break down? 

These expressways and old programs can begin to break down chemically in as little as 3 weeks. So if you deliberately change a habit, be it a thought or behaviour, for 21 days or more, it will start to disintegrate. That’s why we often hear habit coaches speak about changing a habit for at least 3 weeks. At the end of those 3 weeks, the old pathway is still there, you can still go back to it if you choose. But what you have is a choice. That old expressway of thought is now a backstreet. Do it long enough, about 90 days, and it will become an old, overgrown path. While your new thought or habit becomes bigger and stronger.

The stronger program wins! Always!

Not the right one, not the true one, just the stronger one

I suggest it’s easier to focus on something for 3 weeks or longer, if it is of great importance to you. So, rather than choosing to swap breakfast food from Coco Pops to fruit, choose something emotionally powerful to you. A new habit that represents something bigger than you. That pulls you along, and makes the new habit compelling from within. For example, choosing to eat healthy food to boost self confidence and self worth? Or to feel more vitalised and spend more quality time with loved ones. 

3. How do I find my purpose in life? 

Now it’s clear that having a deep purpose or meaning helps greatly to change unwanted habits. Here are some activities you can deliberately immerse yourself in, to focus on meaning and purpose in your life, and thus boost your self confidence.

Create a Definite Aim

As Napoleon Hill would describe it, a “Definite aim”, that you are passionate about. Vision boarding is one way to do this. Simply cut and paste, draw, write it out or create one in Canva. Create one, for individual or multiple key areas of your life. Add as much detail as you can. And place it somewhere you will see it daily.  This will help you live a purposeful life.

If creating a “Definite aim” is something you’d like to explore further, please check out our earlier Positive Pyjama Chats or my “Outcomes Mastery – This 3-step formula empowers professional women, (like you), to uncover the results you truly want, in the primary roles in your life. So you can regain your personal clarity, energy, and presence.” 

4. Subliminal Messaging / Auto-Suggestion:

One way to immerse or surround yourself, is through auto-suggestion: Auto-suggestion is broader than audios & videos, it encompasses your whole environment. Including people, places and plants. Now that you’re focusing on your meaningful missions, you may find that your mission leads you to particular people, places or plants, relevant to it. Who are the people you want to surround yourself with?, Either while you are directly taking action on the mission, or mentors and teachers who you can be inspired by, find support or learn more from? 

You may be wondering how impactful subliminal messaging can really be… To help you understand just how much power subliminal messaging and auto-suggestion have in our everyday lives, I wanted to share this story.

 Story: The Power of Subliminal Messaging

A group of experienced, professional advertising agents from successful firms, from across the US east coast were asked to come to a small town, on the other side of the country, to design an advertisement to promote the town. 

They were collected from the airport and driven across town to the boardroom of the company who hired them. On the way, they passed by a zoo, billboards with strong messages about safety, freshness and adventure, and passed other town landmarks.

When they got to the boardroom, the managers of the company who had hired them, welcomed them and sat them down at the table. They explained,

“We know that you are each great agents, from the best, most successful firms, in your city. You all know that we’re looking to create an ad for our town, and we’ve asked you here today to help us do that. We have a few ideas,” they said, one of them holding up an envelope, “but you are the experts. We’d like to hear from you, first, before we tell you our ideas. So we’ll give you space to get your heads together and creative juices flowing, then we’ll come in, have a listen to your ideas and go from there. Sound like a plan?” The agents all agreed this was a good plan, and the managers left them to it.

At the agreed time, the managers returned and listened to the ideas and concepts that these experienced, professional agents put forward.

At the end of the group presentation by the agents, the managers were happy with these ideas and congratulated the agents on all the hard work they’d done. Finally, at the end, the managers reached for the envelope of their own ideas that had been on the board table from before the agents arrived in the room. They opened the envelope and shared with the agents their own ideas about the promotion for their town. 

What they read from the letter, sealed in the envelope, was virtually identical to the ideas put forward by the professional, and very successful advertising agents.

How? Because the path of signs, businesses and landmarks of the town they had driven past on their way from the airport was no accident. It was strategically designed to subliminally have them thinking in certain ways about the town.

What messages are you picking up from around you that could influence or compromise your endeavours?

Whether in person, or on audios & videos, others values and beliefs will rub off on you. That is the point, and so, it’s also useful to monitor them. Are they lifting you up, encouraging you, stretching you, and pushing you forward? Or do they put a lid on your growth? Limiting you, your belief in yourself, or generally leaving with you a shrinking feeling?

Auto-suggestion has more of an external focus. Whereas, an internally focused method, may help you feel like you can have a day-to-day, in the moment impact, by simply monitoring yourself. Listen objectively and analytically to what you say to others, and yourself, and edit it. Catch yourself mid thought and mid sentence. Change ‘I can’t’ to ‘I can’, ‘I’m not enough’, to ‘Let’s see how far I can go’. At home, be mindful of your expressed language in front of your kids, your spouse, and of course yourself, before you speak, as well as your inner dialogue.

Going back to the neurological thought expressways mentioned before. These steps are all about noticing when you’re on the old pathway and deliberately moving to the new pathway, to build and strengthen that one.

About Blossoming Me

BlossomingMe offers a fully integrated approach to your wellbeing. Located on Sydney’s Upper North Shore. Sarah is our Craniosacral and Remedial Massage Therapist and health and lifestyle coach. She can help relieve those problematic knots, tightness and other specific ailments to promote a healthy recovery. These complementary massage therapies can be combined to suit your needs, and include: craniosacral therapy, shiatsu, acupressure, reiki, remedial, swedish, and body-mind-massage. 

Our qualified Osteopath, Alexis, offers a drug free, minimally invasive, “hands on” treatment focusing on the musculoskeletal system with its associated muscles, tendons, ligaments, membranes, bones and joints. Alexis takes a functional approach. This means that she focuses on the way a component (body part, tissue or group of tissues) performs its role, as well as the way the body works, performs and integrates as a whole. Our team can support you to improve your posture and therefore your overall health.

ional advice or care. Please seek the advice of a qualified health professional before you make any changes to your health regime, before dealing with new symptoms, and, if something you have read here has raised any questions or concerns regarding your situation.