Had CoVid, and you are still not back to your old self?

Had CoVid, and you are still not back to your old self?

Have you had CoVid, and wondered why, weeks later, you’re still not back to your old self?

You may well be suffering from “long CoVid”, or “post CoVid”, and the after-effects of the virus.

I had covid about 8 weeks ago and the last of the symptoms, my fuzzy tongue, and ongoing fatigue really only began to shift in the last couple of weeks. This prolonged healing time is not uncommon for most viruses, but many of us have become much more aware of this part of the healing and recovery journey, since CoVid’s arrival. Just because you are no longer contagious and can return to work, does not mean that your body is fully recovered from the virus or the effects your body has weathered in defending itself against it.

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Symptoms of the virus do seem to be different

Symptoms of the virus do seem to be different for everyone. They are often strongest in your individual body’s “weak” spots and tend to be the expression of where the virus is sitting in your body and has managed to get a foothold. The main symptoms I had initially, were a fuzzy edge around my whole tongue, skin irritation, sore neck, fever, inflamed glands, and fatigue. For a few days, I also had aches throughout my whole body. I was fortunate and only suffered those for a few days.

The all-encompassing fatigue was the worst. As a massage therapist, interacting regularly with numerous other people, I had to watch my energy levels. I love my clients with all my heart, even so, when my resilience levels are low, especially as an introvert, there is a finite number of people I can manage to work with each day, without feeling drained. For me, it was about prioritising my effectiveness with my clients. Meaning keeping my energy levels up. This meant that for a period of time, I couldn’t see as many clients as I usually would. This obviously had a business-level impact, but it also impacted me, as just an individual. So, to maximise my effectiveness with and for clients, my focus, my concentration, and my attitude, which all consume energy, and still have enough energy to cope with the rest of my life, I had become deliberate about what I did and didn’t do. I had to learn how to take my self-care and energy management habits to the next level.

This blog is about the things I learned along the way, and what we, the team at BlossomingMe, are now focusing on, to take even better care of ourselves and our clients, through the post-CoVid healing journey. Much of these actions and habits can also be applied to times when you go through any big changes in life. Whether it’s a virus, like Glandular Fever/ Epstein Barr virus, auto-immune reactions like Urticaria, or other skin reactions, or other life-changing events or stressors like moving house or having a baby. Especially in the postpartum period, close to delivery, when your body goes through more changes, in readjusting to no longer being pregnant, these actions and routines can help you feel better and recover more quickly.

Low Energy Levels

One of the first indications I had, that I was still suffering low energy and the general symptoms of “long CoVid”, was my business partner asking me, three mornings in a row, “what was wrong?”, “was everything ok?”. Whilst in the moment, this didn’t help, in that, it drew my attention to the negative emotions I was feeling, rather than helping me find and focus on the positive ones that were also there. It did make me realise that there was an issue that needed to be dealt with. That I hadn’t recovered as fully as I had thought. My resilience was still low and I wasn’t coping with challenges as well as I usually might.

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One reason that managing my energy levels was, and still is, important is the effect that my energy levels, and therefore my resilience levels, have on my attitude. Like the spike proteins that are what allow the Coronaviruses to penetrate the host cells in our body and cause the infection, (https://www.news-medical.net/health/What-are-Spike-Proteins.aspx), my personality became very prickly. Protecting my mental attitude, in order to lower my defensiveness and reduce my prickliness, as well as to increase my resilience and ability to cope when things around me didn’t go to plan, became a  mission. 

Journey to healing and recovery

Minimising the number of people I saw

Managing my energy levels was a multifold process. One aspect was managing people interactions, another was supporting and nurturing my body through its physical and emotional healing, and the third was maintaining my precious, positive headspace.

The people aspect, I managed basically by staying close to work and home. Keeping quiet and keeping close interactions with people to a minimum. Not being in crowds of people, not even for my birthday. This was really trimmed down to basically immediate family and clients only. Both lockdown and naturally being an introvert, certainly helped a lot with this.

Reducing the number of projects and ultimately tasks

Just like I deliberately minimised the number of people I saw, or more specifically, emotionally connected with, to keep my energy levels high. I came to realise just how much multitasking really does not equal multi-focusing. The process of focusing my concentration became a much more deliberate, intentional, and conscious one.

I found reducing my focus from broad to laser-focused hard because my natural bent is big picture and historically, details have not been my forte. In fact, they often downright scare and overwhelm me. However, whilst big picture thinking has its uses, when my energy was limited, what I really needed, was to focus on getting specific tasks done and completed.

I began learning to reduce the number of projects and ultimately tasks I was trying to do at once.  As Henry Ford said, “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.”

I started to concentrate on breaking the projects down into bite-sized tasks. Small enough that I could action without overwhelming myself and freaking out or feeling completely exhausted and beaten before I’d even started. This process didn’t happen overnight and if I’m honest, is one that I am still learning.

One strategy is organising my week, at least mostly at the beginning of the week, so that the most important projects or tasks are prioritised and done. Another is to protect my headspace more, whilst I actually do these tasks. One way that helped me both organise my week better and protect my headspace, as I’d heard so many times before, was to set up business sprints. Short bursts of focused time, usually about 60-90 minutes each. The times for each of these sprints and what each one was dedicated to doing, were noted in my calendar and eventually even on my Trello board. This strategy helped me immensely, to structure my time and my focus so that I could keep the main thing, the main thing. It helped me lift the energy drain from feeling scattered and directionless and save my energy for my main focuses, my family, and my clients.

As well as consciously setting up, and learning to use these sprints of time, I used some of the spaces between them and clients, to clear my mind. Meditation is something I’ve been doing for a few years. My favourite styles are simple. Either repeating mantras or listening to guided visualisations. As Adam Fraser talks about in his book, “The Third Space”, (reading is another favourite relaxing and nurturing activity of mine) these spaces between activities became very valuable, in helping me to change my focus. They were especially useful when I ran into things like roadblocks in trying to solve a computer or technology issue. They helped me to separate mentally, from the issue and frustration around it, before stepping into a session with a client. So that I was able to leave the discomfort of dealing with machines, as well as my anxiety and prickliness, from the issue remaining unresolved, outside. That way I could also focus on the specific problems for the client at hand, and the joy of finding solutions for them.

Working with these strategies deliberately, step by step has helped me come out of my Post-CoVid recovery with a stronger mindset. So that I feel more in charge.

Self-nurturing and Supplementing

From a physical health perspective, one of the questions that came up for me was “can I accept nurturing​ from others​… yet?” for example an osteopathy treatment or remedial massage.​ To be honest, this may take a while to return. It certainly took me longer than I expected. Even as a touchy-feely massage therapist myself, as well as a generally huggy person, although I still definitely enjoyed a simple, long hug from my hubby,​ I did not feel the desire to be nurtured so much by others. Particularly not being touched much by others. I did have an osteopathic treatment a couple of weeks ago, to support my body’s healing, but it’s really only now, 8 weeks later, that I’m looking for a massage myself.

Self-nurturing, on the other hand, was very powerful and really felt like an essential part of my healing. What worked really well for me were frequent baths. Both simple, Epsom salt foot baths, and full-body soaks in detox baths. Using an easy, homemade recipe designed by our osteopath. These really helped to ease not only my body aches but my mental and emotional irritability and smooth my sharp edges around people, as well. They were also instrumental in helping me to regain and maintain my positive attitude as well as rebuild my resilience.

self care acupressure points

Supplementing with vitamins and herbs, such as Echinacea, especially at the beginning, can be very helpful in supporting your immune system to deal with the invading virus. While antioxidants like vitamin C, garlic, can work very well for your immune system longer term. Zinc can help the vitamin C be absorbed, and work better in your body. And finally, NAC (N-Acetyl-L-Cysteine) can amplify the effectiveness of the anti-oxidants and can be particularly helpful to your body in clearing out the spikey proteins, that the virus left behind.

This is how we take care of our clients

and encourage them to take care of themselves, post-CoVid, as well as post-childbirth, moving house and any number of other stressful events you may have experienced.

We would love to take care of you. Either through the process, if you so choose, or, you know, once you’ve resolved these initial symptoms. 

 

 

 

Let us guide you along your wellbeing journey BlossomingMe is a holistic health service located on Sydney’s Upper North Shore.

Our specialised Remedial Massage Therapist and Osteopath offer a fully integrated approach which assesses and addresses the specific issues in your body.

With a clear understanding of your goals, we treat both mind and body to help you live your best life.

 

4 Things I Learned from Queen Esther About Being a Woman of Influence

4 Things I Learned from Queen Esther About Being a Woman of Influence

Today, all over the world, is the Jewish holiday of Purim.

As you know, Alexis and I love being inspired by amazing, successful women, who are moving ahead by nurturing themselves. Today I was prompted to write about the star of the Purim story, Queen Esther. In this post, I’ll share 4 things I learned from Queen Esther, about being an influential woman.

In the story of Purim, our heroes, Mordechai & Queen Esther, save the Jewish people from Hamon’s evil plan to annihilate all the Jewish people. In the story, the King’s new queen, Esther, who is also Mordechai’s niece and ward, plays a crucial role in changing the King’s mind. She manages to have the decree that Haman had convinced King Achashverosh to agree to, reversed. Ultimately, instead, killing Haman.

In the bible, there are not many women described overtly, as public figures, the ones to take the initiative, or to do something so impactful. So I delved deeper. Here are the 3 most profound things that Queen Esther’s story taught me.

Courage

Courage:

Courage is about facing our fear and taking action in spite of it. It is about taking our life into our own hands, making decisions, sometimes tough decisions, and acting on them.

Queen Esther showed her courage when she risked the wrath of King Achashverosh, to speak with him and beg him to spare the lives of her people.

We see Esther’s courage, not only in taking action but also in how she goes about taking this action. Whilst it is Mordechai, Esther’s uncle and guardian, who discovers Haman’s plan to destroy the Jews, and he who comes to Esther, asking for her help, to beg the king to save her people. So someone whom Esther strongly respects and would likely do anything to help. What Mordechai doesn’t do, is tell her how to do this.

It is Esther who has the courage to take time, to pray, to focus and to plan. She prays and fasts for three days, to clear her mind. She strategically and patiently plans two feasts before making her request to the king. Demonstrating her patience and forethought as well. Finally, she follows through with these plans, holding the feasts and then pleading with King Achashverosh to save the Jews. Truly showing her courage.

My takeaway is that Courage breeds Courage. Just like a muscle, the more we practice acting with courage, the more we will be able to act with courage. I believe that the magic in life comes when we step out of our comfort zone. Almost anything in life that is really worthwhile is outside of our comfort zone. Becoming the best version of ourselves means stretching ourselves, which only happens when we step outside of our comfort zone.

Stepping outside of our comfort zone takes courage.

Initiative:

Initiative is all about personal responsibility and more importantly, our ability to respond.

We see Esther’s courage throughout the story. In taking time to pray, to plan and to act. It takes the whole process to get the results and free her people, the Jewish people, but without her initiative in taking those actions steps, she would not have achieved what she set out to do. Without Esther’s initiative and her ability to respond and take action, the story of Purim may have had a very different outcome.

My personal takeaway is that planning is the first step and planning is imperative, but planning without the follow-through of action doesn’t get us anywhere. Without action and our personal ability to take it, initiative, our best, most well thought out plans cannot bear fruit, won’t give us the results we’re looking for. Actions, no matter how small they might feel, are what takes us towards our desired outcomes in life. Focusing on action, even small action steps, are our key to being able to respond in life and get to where we want to go.

Women Initiative

Values-Based Actions:

Values-based actions bring courage, patience and planning, together with initiative, taking action and self-responsibility.

Esther’s actions were driven by her love and respect for her uncle as well as her people. When Mordechai comes to her, requesting that she go to the King and beg him to spare the lives of the Jews, she is scared, even terrified. She knows she risks her life just to approach the King, without being summoned by him. Still, she seems to need more than a gentle pointer from Mordechai, for the implications for her own life, as a Jew, sink in. Ultimately though, the decision is her’s to make, and she chooses to allow her actions to be driven by her values.

My personal takeaway is that the more true to our values, our actions are, the more powerful and laser-focused they become. Similarly, I have found, the less often I follow actions that really don’t sit well with me, or get tempted by them and spend time making decisions around them the less energy I lose. Actions are either in alignment with us, what we believe is important and who we believe we are, or they are not. When we try to act in a way that is not in alignment with our values, it drains our energy.

When we are true to ourselves, we let our unique, authentic selves shine. we are stronger, more vibrant and filled with more energy.

Nurturing Yourself to reach Clarity of Mind, Personal Strength and Courage

At the time that her uncle, Mordechai charged Esther with the task of saving her people, she was forbidden to speak with the King. The only way to speak with the King was to be personally invited. To build her courage and her plan, to woo the King’s attention and affection, Esther spent 3 full days praying and fasting. This helped build her strength of belief in G-d and herself, boost and focus her energy and attention to resolve the situation peacefully and respectfully, and give her the courage to follow through.

My personal takeaway is that so-called “selfish acts”, of taking time out to look after our bodies and minds, through prayer, meditation, preparing and eating good, clean foods and other activities that nurture and strengthen our bodies, are actually essential to us having the body, the results and the life, we ultimately want.

Nurture Yourself

I learned so much from Queen Esther, about supporting and positively influencing those around me, by nurturing myself. Remembering that I am the Queen of Me, and my best self will come out, with clarity, focus and strength, the better I nurture and look after myself.

Wishing you a happy Purim!

And an amazing year of personal strength and courage, to take your most impactful small action steps.

What would you do if you could clear your mind enough and boost your courage enough? Start own business or side-hustle? Leave your current job? Begin a new relationship? Begin a healthy body / healthy life habit or program?

Please comment below, we’d love to hear from you! 

Menopause – I don’t know who I am anymore… is this the way it is now?

Menopause – I don’t know who I am anymore… is this the way it is now?

I don’t know who I am anymore… is this the way it is now?

Perimenopause, Menopause and Post-menopause

10 tips to a comfortable menopause journey

So, we know that menopause is a process that happens to all women at some
point. Many of us assume that the common symptoms of perimenopause
including hot flushes, irritability and discomfort are a “normal” and
inescapable part of the process. You may be surprised to know that this is not
the case! As with puberty, while our bodies change, it is not a life sentence.
It can just be a transition. It is true that many women suffer horribly. It is
also true, that with a diet and lifestyle that supports our hormones to balance,
including cortisol and DHEA as well as the more widely known oestrogen and
progesterone, we can transition through this period of life, comfortably! Life
after menopause can be lively, exciting and something to look forward to. A
stage of life blessed with increased wisdom and being comfortable in your own
skin. Travelling through your Golden years with ease and grace.

Symptoms

These tend to vary
from person to person and some women hardly notice any. An incomplete list
includes:

  • Hot flushes
  • Breast tenderness
  • Worse PMS
  • Lower Sex drive
  • Headaches and migraines
  • Fatigue
  • Depression
  • Irregular periods
  • Vaginal dryness
  • Discomfort during sex (due to dryness)
  • Urine leakage when coughing or sneezing
  • Urinary urgency
  • Mood swings and irritability
  • Trouble Sleeping

Perimenopause is the transitional stage between regular monthly periods and reaching menopause (defined as the point in time when a woman has had 12 months since her last period). The stage after this is classified as post-menopause.

Pre-menopause is the stage of life between puberty and menopause. A stage where hormones tend not to fluctuate much, a woman tends not to suffer any symptoms associated with menopause and she is in her reproductive years.

Perimenopause begins when the oestrogen produced in the ovaries starts to
reduce. Often resulting in several years of irregular periods due to the more
sporadic release of oestrogen and progesterone (as well as cortisol and DHEA).
Sometimes the hormonal fluctuations as so large or out of balance that we may
experience symptoms such as depression, moodiness and irritability, weight
gain, discomfort, reduced memory and concentration, muscle aches, as sense of
being uncomfortable in our own skin, hot flushes, hair loss, breast tenderness,
reduced libido and sexual pleasure and vaginal dryness, to name a few. This
stage may begin sometime between the ages of 35 and 50 years and can last from
as little as a few months, to as long as 15 years with the average, being
around 4 years. In the final stage, oestrogen levels may decline sharply. Symptoms
may be most pronounced at this time, expanding to include things like urinary urgency
and frequency or even incontinence; depression and anxiety as well as night
sweats, fatigue and skin dryness.

Menopause occurs when there is no longer enough oestrogen produced by the ovaries to trigger the uterine lining to build, the release of an egg or the shedding of the uterine lining. This is the point where fertility ceases. Contrary to what some of us thought, during the perimenopausal stage, conception is still possible.

Treatments:

Medications:

Doctors can prescribe

  • Oestrogen creams for vaginal dryness, pain and discomfort
  •  Progesterone creams for breast tenderness
  •  The pill or other hormone replacement therapies to try to minimise symptoms
  •  Creams or tablets to reduce bladder irritability

Look into the options and side effects for yourself before you decide

10 Natural Tips for a Comfortable Menopause Journey
  • Exercise
  • Stop smoking
  • Get more rest/sleep
  • Reduce alcohol intake
  • Be in a healthy weight range
  • Ensure you don’t have a vitamin or mineral deficiency (magnesium, vitamin D, vitamin C, omega 3, evening primrose oil [internal or topical])
  • Reduce foods that have the potential to alter hormone balance in the body => Processed, hydrogenated and trans-fats; Highly refined carbohydrates (especially sugars); Caffeine; Alcohol
  • Pelvic floor exercises to support the pelvic area and the bladder (as incontinence is a symptom of hormonal imbalance associated with perimenopause)
  • Using natural oils (jojoba, coconut, olive) as lubricants down there as a lubricant during sex, or during the day to allow more comfort
  • Add an anti-inflammatory, alkalising, plant rich diet

Always consult your doctor if you have strong pain, very heavy bleeding or bleeding for more than 7 days longer than your usual period