Is Self Care Selfish?

Is Self Care Selfish?

Self-care is vital, and one of the least selfish things you can do to improve your life. When you invest time in caring for yourself, you’ll reap the benefits and return on investment in almost every area of your life. You may notice improvement in your physical and mental health, your relationships with yourself and others will likely improve, and your productivity increases. It enables you to become the best version of yourself, able to give more to the people and projects that are important in your life. It allows you to truly blossom.

How can self-care benefit me?

Simple self-care activities can help ease your body’s aching muscles and painful joints. Self care can also increase energy, reduce stress, uplift your mindset and attitude. It can increase your resilience, and boost your immunity, generally supporting your wellbeing. You may even gain clarity about who you are, where you’re going, what’s important to you and why.
 
At our clinic, we find that much healing happens in the time between one consultation and the next.
We observe that the best results occur for our clients when they implement self-care activities to boost the healing and recovery process.

What is Self-Care?

Many people seem daunted by self-care. Some people over complicate a self-care act and think it means allocating a whole day at an expensive day spa. It doesn’t need to be this extravagant. Self-care can be as simple as taking a moment to remember to breathe.  So let’s practice together right now… 

Take a long, slow, deep breath and feel it filling your lungs and into your belly. Hold it for a few seconds, then release the air through your mouth.

It’s like releasing a steam valve. By taking the pressure off, you prevent it from “popping its seal” or “overflowing”. The secret is regularity. So make self-care as simple, enjoyable, and easily repeatable as possible. Creating lifelong habits, to support your physical and mental wellbeing.

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What Self-Care Activities appeal to you?

To support you with actively implementing self-care into your daily lives, we’ve created a self-care list for you.  It’s vital when creating a self care routine or habit that you choose something you enjoy. It needs to work for you and uplift you.

Here’s a list of some of our favourites self-care activities:

  • Go for a walk or run

  • Immerse yourself in nature, either in the bushwalking or along a beach

  • Stretch, even gentle stretching will get your body moving again, boost circulation and ease achy joints into action

  • Read a good book

  • Listen to your favourite music – create a playlist.

  • Create something (baking, sewing, arts and crafts, a piece of furniture)

  • Start a journal

  • Play with Pets

  • Talk to a friend

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  • Take a bath

You can make it a luxurious one, to make you feel extra special and nurtured. Try using:

    • Epsom salts or
    • Essential oils such as
      • Lavender to relax
      • Peppermint to soothe tired, achy muscles, or
      • Eucalyptus to refresh and clear any sinus challenges, particularly in the cooler, dryer autumn and winter weather.
  • Moisturise your entire body.

Choose something that feels nourishing. Nurture your body and make it sing with pleasure.

  • Watch a movie

  • Meditation is a favourite of mine

  • Mindful activity

If meditation isn’t for you, do an activity in a mindful, deliberate way. By this, I mean clear any distraction and be fully focused on one small task. It might be over a simple cup of tea, for example. For these few moments, focus intently on your senses: can you smell the aroma of the tea? What is the taste as you sip? Can you feel the warmth of the cup in your hands? Stay in the moment as long as possible.

  • Acupressure Points

You can press acupressure points on yourself at home to strengthen your body, mind, and spirit. They can help release emotions like sadness, grief, or loss, as well as boost your personal composure.

Especially during Autumn, when the meridian channel of metal is in its element, (for more information click our blog). These metal points can help you let go of anything you no longer need. This practice releases physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual tension, as well as strengthening you from the inside out.

You can activate these acupressure points by stroking or pressing on the points. Let’s do it together now. See the diagram:  Large Intestine1 (LI1)  and Lung 8 (Lu8).

Large Intestine 1 and Lung 8:

These points clear and calm the mind, to revitalise you. They clear stuck energy and emotions.

  • On the radial (also thumb) side of the index finger, about 0.1 finger width posterior to (towards the back of the hand) from the corner of the nail.
  • Stroke your lower arm upwards, in line with the pointer finger, towards your body
  • To invigorate the energy further, press the point gently – 3-7 times
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  • Release old thoughts that no longer serve you. 

This has the additional benefit of releasing any habits that also no longer serve you. Then, deliberately bring in new ones, which support and uplift you. 

    • One habit I recently explored is a tool I learned from mindset extraordinaire, Ben Elliott. He describes a simple process in which, if something happens, a trigger, something that would usually set you off or upset you in some way, you can decide to react differently.

Here’s an example of how I practice this new habit. When something happens that I’m not happy with, in the clinic or more often, in myself, I choose to refocus my attention on anything that I’m grateful for. Here’s a few that work for me:

      • Simple – Having two feet that work and support me well
      • Personal – Receiving a thoughtful phone call or text from my step-children. Or the cosy feeling of being loved supported and surrounded by my wonderful hubby and family.

Sinking into that feeling of appreciation and warmth, helps me regain my composure, refocus my energy and stay strong.

This process does take practice before it becomes automatic. Moving from being “triggered” and reacting , to deliberately choosing a better response (thought or action).  Simply put, this formula is: “When X (trigger), Do Y (new response)”.

  • Ask for help

If you notice any niggles as you implement some of these “at home” self-care activities, consider complementary professional assistance, this too is an act of self-care.

    • e.g. if you feel physical aches and pains, consider booking an appointment with your favourite Osteopath, Chrio, Accupuncturist or Massage Therapist. Or consider salt therapy rooms, an infra red sauna or float tank.
    • For mental and emotional support, consider a Counsellor, Psychologist or Mind Set Coach.

This self-care list is just the tip of the iceberg. Select activities which make you feel stronger, refreshed rejuvinated or nurtured.  After a while, you may be inspired to try something new. We strongly encourage you to do so!

When you do, we’d love to hear about it. Please let us know how you go, in our Facebook community group.

Let us guide you along your wellbeing journey BlossomingMe is a holistic health service located on Sydney’s Upper North Shore.

Our specialised Remedial Massage Therapist and Osteopath offer a fully integrated approach which assesses and addresses the specific issues in your body.

With a clear understanding of your goals, we treat both mind and body to help you live your best life.

 

When Will I Feel Better?

When Will I Feel Better?

When will it feel like I don’t have to keep coming back on such a frequent basis?

“When will I feel better?” – Most of our clients seeking Osteopathic treatment ask this question at some stage in their healing and recovery journey. This blog will address this frequently asked question with the aim to educate and manage expectations.

While it’s difficult to provide an exact answer, as everyone is different. We can however give you an idea of the ‘average’ recovery period  and the factors that might hasten your recovery.

Some people find the problem they came in with disappeared almost straight away. Others find it improves with each session, but over the first few weeks, it seems to keep coming back. This can sometimes feel like a boomerang, and you can become concerned that while treatment provides relief, it doesn’t appear to go away completely.

So how long does it take to get better after an osteopathic treatment?

While we know that by the 4th or 5th session, you will be well on your way in the healing process. We have also observed over and over again that it’s generally not until about the 8th session that clients really start to feel the transformation.

Can you explain why you recommend such a long treatment plan?

Within the first session or three, you will notice considerable relief and more mobility. You likely will even notice changes and improvements throughout the week. These improvements between sessions occur as your body continues to process and assimilate the changes and space created in the treatment session.

While you’ll feel some improvement, you  may find your body is feeling less comfortable again. This usually happens by the end of the period between sessions. If you notice this, we understand it’s easy to feel disheartened, and wonder whether a change is happening, or if you have to keep coming back…

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What can I do to aid my recovery?

  • Eat well – your body’s ability to heal is aided by good nutrition
  • Rest after treatments
  • Understand your body is trying to heal itself
  • Reduce emotional stress and strain as it slows recovery
  • Follow the treatment plan, do the exercises – Your daily exercises make a HUGE difference

Trust your body and follow the treatment plan

Our message to you, is this: keep an open mind, trust your body and follow the plan that we have created with you. As your body continues to heal and assimilate, a transformation happens! As stated above, this often is around the 8th to 10th session. At this point, you likely still are not “fixed”, but your body has started to stabilise. In this more stable place, your body can relax a little, allowing you to keep healing and strengthening, but simultaneously feel more resilient.

At this stage, you’re less likely to fall back into the old habits, movements and pain. And when a small disruption happens, you notice your body has more resilience, such that previously, when whatever challenge occurred, you would have been in pain for days. Whereas now, if there is pain, it seems to easily resolve itself in a day or so, or does not create a noticeable problem at all.

Treating underlying issues and maintenance

At this point, the space between treatment sessions can also increase. So that we can continue to stimulate healing and realignment, and deal with the underlying issues that contributed to your injury or compensation patterns in the first place, while allowing you to do more home-based maintenance. Allowing you to be in control of maintaining, improving, and dealing with any minor flare-ups along the way. While you focus on strengthening yourself in a more balanced way, to help you stay well and strong, and without pain.

It’s easy to forget

Some people quickly forget the problem they initially came in with. They become aware of all the other issues that they either: didn’t realise they had, didn’t realise that we could assist with. Often, in this situation, you can become so aware of the current symptom, and that it’s not as perfect as you would like yet, that it’s easy to forget the symptoms that have greatly improved or even completely disappeared. In this scenario, it’s probably not until the later stages of the first or second phases of the treatment process, around 10 sessions or more, that you begin to notice how far you have come and how good you feel – in general, and especially compared to what you felt when you began treatment.

 

Most importantly, know you can smile, and exhale, as Alexis’ caring, compassionate approach, combined with professional skills and qualifications as an Osteopath, means you are in safe hands.

If you are unsure about your response to treatment or would like some advice, don’t hesitate to contact Alexis directly, and she will do her best to guide you through.

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Spring Cleaning in Autumn!

Spring Cleaning in Autumn!

Working with the energy of the seasons

One of the things Alexis and are passionate about is nurturing our bodies through the power of nature. Tapping into the cycle of the seasons and utilising this energy to strengthen and nourish us. And helping others to do the same.

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, we have channels of energy through our body. These energy channels, called Meridian channels, support our body, mind, spirit and emotions. There are 12 main channels altogether. Grouped in pairs and one set of four meridians. Each set is associated with characteristics, including a season, an element, an emotion, that we may feel if that energy becomes stuck, and a primary function.

In Autumn, the season we are right in the middle of now, the Lung and Large Intestine meridians channels, in the metal element are at their strongest. The emotion, if our energy gets stuck here, is grief. But the counterpoint to that, or the power and primary function of the energy of the metal element, is letting go of. Releasing, so that we can rejuvenate and refresh.

If we think about the function of our Large Intestines and Lungs, this starts to make sense. Our Large Intestines help us eliminate waste from our body after we’ve absorbed all the nutrition from our food. Our Lungs release the old, used air, making room for the new air they inhale.
And we can tap into this energy of Metal and Autumn, of the Lung and Large Intestine meridian channels, to help us do the same thing in our lives.

“Spring” Cleaning & Decluttering in Autumn!

Usually, we think cleaning, decluttering and re-organising our homes as a “Spring” Clean, but doing it in autumn can actually support us. Making this process of releasing the old and creating room for the new, easier.

We can sort and organise our wardrobe, study or office desk and computer files, kitchen cupboards and generally de-clutter. Go through our computer and delete files we don’t need anymore. Go through our wardrobe and put together a collection of clothes we don’t wear anymore. Instead, we can make a donation to feel great about!

We can use this energy not just in a physical environmental sense. We can utilise it to boost our ability to let go of what we no need, like aches or tension in our body, and stressors in our mind. Helping us to clear old habits, old ideas, any physical or psychological clutter, that no longer serve us. As such, autumn is a good time to reflect on what we may be holding onto and work these ideas through fully so that they can be completely released.

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Uncovering the Real You

In her book, “The Gift”, psychiatrist, Dr Edith Eger explains that “in trying to keep ourselves modest, we risk making ourselves less than we really are”. She says that the foundation for being our whole self, for being truly healthy and joy-filled, is our ability to love ourselves.

But what really spoke to me, in her book, was the concept that once we begin healing, “what you discover will not be the new you, but the real you.” The You who was there all along. Born innately beautiful and full of love and joy.

Edit goes on to say that if we want to take charge of our thinking, we first need to look at our actions, what we’re doing, and what we’re saying to ourselves, and ask: “is it empowering or depleting me?” “Is it kind and loving?”

Recently, One challenge I’ve been falling into is the trap of negative thoughts and the roller coaster of emotions that they bring. When I’ve woken up early in the morning, I get annoyed that I’m awake, which leads to other annoyed thoughts and I get sucked into the cycle of negative thoughts, that turn into a tidal wave! It’s hard to break and left me getting up in the morning, “on the wrong side of the bed”, angry and frustrated with the world and focused on what wasn’t working for me. Not a great way to start the day!

The other day I took myself through a process that Edith talks about. One that I haven’t done for ages. I took time to journal my thoughts. Just jotting them down each hour through the day. With no judgement or analysis.
Just bringing them up to my conscious awareness level.

That night, I woke up at 3 am, as I often do.
But this time, I was finally able to remember, at 3 in the morning, that I had a choice about what to focus on and where my thoughts went. I was finally able to choose to find things to be grateful for! A husband who loves me, a family who cares about me and supports me, and a business I love working in.
But I wasn’t able to start there. I had to start with really simple things, like: 2 eyes I can see well with, 2 nostrils I can breathe through (that’s actually quite a big one since I’ve had sinus & respiratory troubles all my life), teeth I can chew with, tongue I can taste yummy food with, 2 legs that carry me and 2 arms I use all day, for writing and sharing my thoughts & insights & for helping clients deal with their issues and improve their lives, to the best of my ability.

Another tool I’ve used numerous times, to start to change negative thoughts I’ve had, these are some phrases I like to add:
“That used to be me”
“….. yet”
“Up until now ….”
We can use phrases like these to take back our own power, gently. We can even utilise them to empower affirmations. Making them feel more real and possible. Expanding out thinking and self-belief also themes empowered throughout the season of Autumn and enabling us to bring in qualities and characteristics we desire for ourselves, as we become our best versions of ourselves.

Until we can change our language, as Edith predicts will happen, and we can genuinely, authentically and strongly state:
“Yes I am!”
“Yes I can!”
“Yes I will!”

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Nurture and Nourish Our Body, to Strengthen Our Immunity

One of the best and simplest ways to strengthen our lungs is deep breathing. Especially outdoors, in the brisk autumn air. This nurtures and nourishes our immune system, supports our energy, and promotes good sleep.

When we breathe deeply and deliberately, we flush our cells with the oxygen needed for all our bodily processes. Promoting the process of releasing and rejuvenating.
So next time we take our morning or evening walk outdoors, take and moment to take a few long, slow, deep breaths. Letting the cool air seep into the lungs, strengthening them.
As you breathe the air out, know that this process, of air flowing in and out of our body, is helping us to release. To let go of anything that is no longer supporting us. Be it social, emotional, mental or physical.

Through our nose, mouth and skin pores, our lungs interact directly with the outside environment, giving them an important role in fighting off external pathogens, like viruses and bacteria.
As the temperature drops and winds become dry you may notice cold or flu-like symptoms such as a stiff neck, body aches, chills, fever, sore throat, headache, cough and runny nose. Existing skin conditions such as eczema or psoriasis may get aggravated, and asthma or allergy reactions may flare. Now is the time to strengthen our Chi, energy, to prepare for winter.

Healthy foods that can be easily added to many dishes, to further nourish our bodies and our family, include: bay leaves, garlic, horseradish, leek, ginger, capers. They can support our lungs and boost our immune systems, naturally.

For further support and strengthen our immune system and our whole bodies, with a “tune-up”, we can visit our preferred professional practitioner. An osteopath, acupuncturist, naturopath or transformational massage therapist (see website link), can really help us make a difference.

Wishing You Happiness and Strength This Autumn!

If you knew that you could, which aches and pains in your body, would you let go of?

If you were courageous enough, what thoughts, ideas or habits would you release?

 

Please comment in our Facebook Community Group, we’d love to hear from you!

Your Journey to Healing and Recovery

Your Journey to Healing and Recovery

It’s not a one-off event

Like success or anything else worthwhile, healing takes time. Many people think of the ability of our bodies to heal, for example back or knee pain, or an injury like a pulled hamstring muscle, as a one-off event. Others imagine this recovery takes place in a similar time frame to healing a broken bone (about 6 weeks). In reality, healing issues and injuries, such as these, usually involving soft tissues, like muscles and tendons, will begin to heal within this timeframe. However, they will rarely complete the healing and recovery process that quickly. In this blog, I will discuss how healing works and why healing takes time.

Many of our clients initially arrive at our clinic, in a great deal of pain and discomfort. As you can imagine, our first focus is to improve comfort and mobility. Then we focus on supporting and strengthening the body. This allows the changes to consolidate and build. Enabling this new posture or way of being to hold for longer and longer periods. Ultimately, this leads to improved health, strength, resilience, energy, and vitality. Unfortunately, this doesn’t all happen in one visit, it takes time. Often it will take many visits, as well as time for their body to assimilate these changes.

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During your body’s healing and recovery from an issue or injury, there are three clinical stages: Inflammation, Proliferative and Remodeling.

Inflammation

Inflammation is the first stage, and often our first sign that something is wrong and our body needs help. Actually, it’s part of the healing process itself. Our body’s early response to the injured tissues. Inflammation creates swelling and redness, due to the influx of supplies and reinforcements (particularly red and white blood cells), which the body directs specifically to the affected area. This launches the beginning of the process of healing and repairing the tissues, and can last up to 4 days.

 

Proliferation

The Proliferation stage begins about 3 days into the process, overlapping with the end of the Inflammation stage. In this stage, the tissues, for example, the muscles or tendons, are being rebuilt. As this happens, the tissues can contract, feeling tight, restricted, and often painful.

Remodelling

Remodelling is the last stage and can last 6 months to a year, after injury. This is the stage of re-educating our body, helping it regain its original strength and conditioning. It involves our body adapting to these re-educational changes and finally assimilating them. When done well, it can even enhance and improve the state of our body, from where we initially began. This is due to what we learn and change in that process of re-education. For instance, in the process, we can learn better habits of lifting, exercising, movement, and posture. So, if you improve your habits, you may find that after you’ve “recovered” from your injury, your body is actually stronger, more proficient and more resilient. You may even have more energy than before the issue or injury.

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Are healing bumps normal?

Healing rarely happens smoothly nor in an exact straight line, it’s not linear. Healing is a process. One that naturally goes up and down. The old saying of “two steps forwards and one step backward” can sometimes be how it feels. Sometimes things can feel worse before they start to feel better. Sometimes it can feel like you’re going backwards, when in reality, your body is working with and assimilating the changes it’s being led and encouraged to take. Unfortunately, this can be a common response during healing and even to treatment. So yes, there can be bumps in healing. It’s normal for the process to be a bumpy one.

If this is how your body responds, it can feel tight, uncomfortable, or even painful. We’re sorry to hear you’re suffering. If this sounds like what is happening for you, heat will usually be your friend. Consider a warm shower, an Epsom Salt bath, foot bath, or heat pack, to soothe and relax your muscles. If you have any questions or concerns, please call your practitioner, and they can help you understand what might be happening specifically in your body. We help you understand what your journey to healing and recovery might look like, we want you to feel better ASAP.

Healing is like a spiral

I have often heard clients and practitioner friends describe that healing is like “a series of hills or mountains to climb”. Especially when they get frustrated, it’s not progressing in the straight line they expected. My favourite image or shape to describe the healing process is a spiral. Looping around, coming back to a similar place. For instance, when we feel pain, discomfort, or tightness recur. But in fact, the process has actually moved forward. It has improved and gone to the next level, loosening muscles or releasing tension in places. But the body has gone as far as it can at this moment and hit the next point of resistance. That is the pain, discomfort, or tightness that we feel. With some more help, from you or your therapist, you can also move through this, to your next level of healing and recovery. Reaching an even higher level of strength, resilience, and energy.

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Healing is the new high

Through this up-and-down journey of healing and recovery, we observe that our clients are so focused on how they feel in the here and now, that they forget the more intense, constant pain, discomfort or tightness they suffered at the beginning. This is a normal and natural part of the healing and recovery process. But it reminds me, as a practitioner, to help my clients reflect back on how far they have come. To celebrate their wins at each step, no matter how small they sometimes seem. Feeling more positive about the healing process can empower, enhance and even increase the speed of healing, because we are then supporting rather than resisting it. Focusing positively on each milestone can make the journey of healing feel like a fabulous high.

Imagine for a moment what you would do if you could clear your pain sufficiently and improve your movement? 

During this strange and crazy time,  YOU are still our highest priority!

We can still treat you in person with Osteopathic and Massage services at our Turramurra clinic during COVID-19 lockdown.

So come in, feel nurtured as we provide you with the treatment and tools so you can feel brilliant again.

 

Where are you at in your journey to healing and recovery?

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4 Things I Learned from Queen Esther About Being a Woman of Influence

4 Things I Learned from Queen Esther About Being a Woman of Influence

Today, all over the world, is the Jewish holiday of Purim.

As you know, Alexis and I love being inspired by amazing, successful women, who are moving ahead by nurturing themselves. Today I was prompted to write about the star of the Purim story, Queen Esther. In this post, I’ll share 4 things I learned from Queen Esther, about being an influential woman.

In the story of Purim, our heroes, Mordechai & Queen Esther, save the Jewish people from Hamon’s evil plan to annihilate all the Jewish people. In the story, the King’s new queen, Esther, who is also Mordechai’s niece and ward, plays a crucial role in changing the King’s mind. She manages to have the decree that Haman had convinced King Achashverosh to agree to, reversed. Ultimately, instead, killing Haman.

In the bible, there are not many women described overtly, as public figures, the ones to take the initiative, or to do something so impactful. So I delved deeper. Here are the 3 most profound things that Queen Esther’s story taught me.

Courage

Courage:

Courage is about facing our fear and taking action in spite of it. It is about taking our life into our own hands, making decisions, sometimes tough decisions, and acting on them.

Queen Esther showed her courage when she risked the wrath of King Achashverosh, to speak with him and beg him to spare the lives of her people.

We see Esther’s courage, not only in taking action but also in how she goes about taking this action. Whilst it is Mordechai, Esther’s uncle and guardian, who discovers Haman’s plan to destroy the Jews, and he who comes to Esther, asking for her help, to beg the king to save her people. So someone whom Esther strongly respects and would likely do anything to help. What Mordechai doesn’t do, is tell her how to do this.

It is Esther who has the courage to take time, to pray, to focus and to plan. She prays and fasts for three days, to clear her mind. She strategically and patiently plans two feasts before making her request to the king. Demonstrating her patience and forethought as well. Finally, she follows through with these plans, holding the feasts and then pleading with King Achashverosh to save the Jews. Truly showing her courage.

My takeaway is that Courage breeds Courage. Just like a muscle, the more we practice acting with courage, the more we will be able to act with courage. I believe that the magic in life comes when we step out of our comfort zone. Almost anything in life that is really worthwhile is outside of our comfort zone. Becoming the best version of ourselves means stretching ourselves, which only happens when we step outside of our comfort zone.

Stepping outside of our comfort zone takes courage.

Initiative:

Initiative is all about personal responsibility and more importantly, our ability to respond.

We see Esther’s courage throughout the story. In taking time to pray, to plan and to act. It takes the whole process to get the results and free her people, the Jewish people, but without her initiative in taking those actions steps, she would not have achieved what she set out to do. Without Esther’s initiative and her ability to respond and take action, the story of Purim may have had a very different outcome.

My personal takeaway is that planning is the first step and planning is imperative, but planning without the follow-through of action doesn’t get us anywhere. Without action and our personal ability to take it, initiative, our best, most well thought out plans cannot bear fruit, won’t give us the results we’re looking for. Actions, no matter how small they might feel, are what takes us towards our desired outcomes in life. Focusing on action, even small action steps, are our key to being able to respond in life and get to where we want to go.

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Values-Based Actions:

Values-based actions bring courage, patience and planning, together with initiative, taking action and self-responsibility.

Esther’s actions were driven by her love and respect for her uncle as well as her people. When Mordechai comes to her, requesting that she go to the King and beg him to spare the lives of the Jews, she is scared, even terrified. She knows she risks her life just to approach the King, without being summoned by him. Still, she seems to need more than a gentle pointer from Mordechai, for the implications for her own life, as a Jew, sink in. Ultimately though, the decision is her’s to make, and she chooses to allow her actions to be driven by her values.

My personal takeaway is that the more true to our values, our actions are, the more powerful and laser-focused they become. Similarly, I have found, the less often I follow actions that really don’t sit well with me, or get tempted by them and spend time making decisions around them the less energy I lose. Actions are either in alignment with us, what we believe is important and who we believe we are, or they are not. When we try to act in a way that is not in alignment with our values, it drains our energy.

When we are true to ourselves, we let our unique, authentic selves shine. we are stronger, more vibrant and filled with more energy.

Nurturing Yourself to reach Clarity of Mind, Personal Strength and Courage

At the time that her uncle, Mordechai charged Esther with the task of saving her people, she was forbidden to speak with the King. The only way to speak with the King was to be personally invited. To build her courage and her plan, to woo the King’s attention and affection, Esther spent 3 full days praying and fasting. This helped build her strength of belief in G-d and herself, boost and focus her energy and attention to resolve the situation peacefully and respectfully, and give her the courage to follow through.

My personal takeaway is that so-called “selfish acts”, of taking time out to look after our bodies and minds, through prayer, meditation, preparing and eating good, clean foods and other activities that nurture and strengthen our bodies, are actually essential to us having the body, the results and the life, we ultimately want.

Nurture Yourself

I learned so much from Queen Esther, about supporting and positively influencing those around me, by nurturing myself. Remembering that I am the Queen of Me, and my best self will come out, with clarity, focus and strength, the better I nurture and look after myself.

Wishing you a happy Purim!

And an amazing year of personal strength and courage, to take your most impactful small action steps.

What would you do if you could clear your mind enough and boost your courage enough? Start own business or side-hustle? Leave your current job? Begin a new relationship? Begin a healthy body / healthy life habit or program?

Please comment below, we’d love to hear from you!