Unlocking Your Nervous System's Protective Patterns - Blossoming Me

Do you find your pain and tightness returning?

If that sounds like you, join me as we explore the idea that your body may be working to protect you.

Here are 5 things we’ll look at together that might help you:

✅ Learn why symptoms like neck tightness, headaches, or anxiety may return

✅ Discover why this may not be a loss of progress, but a learned protective pattern of the nervous system.

✅ Understand how your body naturally shifts between different nervous system states (calm/connected, anxious/wired, exhausted/numb) as a safety response, as we draw on research from Professor Stephen Porges

✅ And Peter Levine, to understand how the body may stay immobilised, waiting for enough safety to let go. Which may leave you feeling stuck and your body tense or in pain.

✅ Find how to notice triggers and listen to your body’s wisdom with curiosity and compassion, as a first step toward healing.

✨ I’d love you to join me for Week 2 of the Nervous System Wisdom Series to help settle your nervous system, find relief for your body’s pain and tension, and support your capacity and resilience.

Together we’ll begin learning the language your body has been speaking all along.

Rather read the transcript?

Here it is…

Hello and welcome back.

Last week we began exploring a simple but powerful idea: that your body may not be working against you at all. It may actually be working very hard to protect you.

And I invited you to simply notice what helped your body to feel settled, and what seemed to make it worse, more tense.

I wonder what you discovered. Perhaps you noticed your shoulders lifting when you open certain emails, or your jaw tightening when you’re running late.

Maybe there were moments when your body softened. And others when it quietly went back on guard.

If you noticed even one of those moments, you’re already beginning to learn the language that your body has been speaking all along.

Today, I’d like to take that one step further, because once we understand that our body is trying to protect us, another question naturally follows. If life has changed,

Why do these patterns keep coming back?

Why does your neck still tighten or tighten again?
Why does your jaw clench even before you’ve realized that you’re stressed?
Why does certain situations trigger a reaction before your thinking mind, has caught up?

The answer has very little to do with willpower and everything to do with how our nervous system learns. So today, let’s explore why your body may be continuing to protect you even when the original reason has long since passed.

Listening to Your Nervous System

One of the most common questions that I hear is, why does it keep coming back?

Maybe it’s your neck pain, your headaches, your anxiety, your jaw tension. You feel better for a little while, and then suddenly it’s back again.

Many people assume they’ve lost all their progress. They tell me things like, ” I feel like I’m back at square one.” But what if that’s not happening? What if your body isn’t actually failing? What if it’s simply continuing a protective pattern that it once learned when it was helpful?

Exploring Protective Patterns

One of the most remarkable things about our nervous system is that it is always learning. And, just like learning to ride a bike or learning to drive, it learns through experience. If something helped you cope once, your nervous system remembers. It holds that pattern to repeat it. It isn’t asking if this response is perfect. It’s asking, ” Has this helped me survive before?” And if the answer is yes, it’s very likely to use that response again.

It’s a go-to tool for your nervous system. Not because it’s the best response possible or even for today, but because it’s one that it already knows.

That’s not weakness; that’s learning.

Professor of Psychiatry, Stephen Porges helps us understand that our nervous system is constantly moving between different states. Not New South Wales and Queensland. But sometimes we feel calm, connected, and present. And at other times we might feel anxious, restless, wired or overwhelmed. Sometimes we can feel exhausted, flat, disconnected, or even numb.

These aren’t character flaws. They’re nervous system states. And here’s something that I find incredibly interesting. Your nervous system isn’t trying to be logical. It’s trying to keep you safe. If staying alert, staying busy, staying prepared, or staying quiet once helped you cope, your nervous system may continue choosing these responses until it has had enough experiences of safety, to learn something new, to learn another pattern.

Why Your Body Keeps Reacting

Dr. Peter Levine also describes something truly fascinating. Sometimes our body prepares us to protect ourselves. To speak, to leave, to cry, reach out for support, to defend ourselves. But life isn’t always that simple. Sometimes we can’t.

So the body prepares, but never quite gets the chance to complete what it started, the response that it started. Perhaps you wanted to speak up, but you stayed quiet. Perhaps you wanted to leave, but you stayed. Maybe you wanted to cry, but you held it together, held it in. You wanted somebody’s help, but you carried it by yourself. The body mobilizes. The nervous system prepares, but the cycle never completes. That action isn’t taken. It’s almost as though your nervous system is still waiting for an experience of enough safety to finally let go of that old protective response, that old pattern.

A Journey to Self-Compassion

This is where I think we can begin looking at it ourselves in a slightly different way. Instead of asking why am I like this? Perhaps we could ask, ” What is my nervous system trying to do for me right now?” Or even, ” What has my body been trying so hard to protect?”

Before we ask our body to change, perhaps we could spend a little time appreciating just how hard it has been working to protect us, and keep us safe. Because once we understand that our body’s reactions do make sense we can stop seeing ourselves as broken and start seeing ourselves as beautifully adaptive. And that’s a very different place to begin healing from.

So this week…

So this week, if you remember just one thing, let it be this: your body’s reactions usually make sense, even if you don’t understand them yet.

As you move through your week, simply notice. What situations does your body react to before your mind catches up? An email, a phone call, someone’s tone of voice, walking into a particular room, or meeting a certain person?

You don’t need to change those reactions; you don’t need to judge them; simply notice them with kindness and compassion because understanding almost always comes before change.

And perhaps this week, rather than asking, “Why does my body keep doing this?” We could try asking ourselves what old protective pattern our nervous system might still be holding onto? Not to analyze it, not to fix it, just to become curious. Sometimes our bodies have been speaking to us for years. This week is simply about listening.

Next week, we’ll go further and explore where many of these protective patterns begin. Why so many of us become the strong one, the helper, the fixer, or the person everyone else relies on.

Until then, be kind to yourself, compassionate, stay curious, and keep listening to your body’s wisdom.

And I’ll see you next week.

From my heart to your heart,

Namaste.

Sarah xx

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